Calling Out: Daniel R. Stalder Ph.D. & Psychologytoday

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Inconsistencies, hypocrisy, and embarrassments: these are the topics at hand in an article written by Daniel Stalder in psychologytoday.com entitled, The Bias and Embarrassment of Hypocrisy.

I want to first correct a couple of issues in the paper in relation how those things are related:

Embarrassment and inconsistency is a psychological personal aspect that often is related to one’s inner voice as one comments on their own behavior to themselves such as in the case of instructive criticism which turns embarrassment into a thing one needs to do more preparation for in order that they may avoid acting in an “embarrassing manner”.

In relation to hypocrisy, embarrassment is often related to confidence being diminished after one has expressed something in a “manner that is for certain” which is a thing related to arrogant hypocrisy. This is also related to humiliation if one has humiliated others in their hypocrisy…as it is also related to suicide if the hypocrisy has been part of a person’s self-hood and identity. In that, embarrassment can be a psychological impact in relation  to hypocrisy. And if we were to look at embarrassment in general we can say that embarrassment feels impactful psychologically due to how one feels undermined in their abilities where this “undermining” is a thing that is similar to hypocrisy in two ways: 1st. If one has undermined others in being a hypocrite… or 2. if one has undermined their own intelligence/abilities in being a hypocrite where the second needs to be addressed in a manner that does not attack the person as it appears to be accidental.

In relation to hypocrisy and inconsistency, we have two stages that men have driven us to: The first is one that is related to an inconsistency becoming a consistency where something such as “black people are inferior” is an inconsistency in relation to the truth which has become a consistency in relation to the reality of how they are treated. This, in turn (as well as in the case of sexism), is taken as a learning opportunity as for one to learn all about that inconsistency in order that they can make an inconsistent change in its regards under which that inconsistent  change is one that “fixes the issue”. Hence, the issue goes from  inconsistency to (stage one) consistency in regards to consistency…and then on to stage two where fixing the issue is an inconsistency due to how long the problem has been consistent. This, furthermore, will make the truth itself into that which is inconsistent with that which we are used to…thus, reminding us that we have “used” people in the process as we may have gotten used to it enough to need a reminder.

Daniel writes in the article,

Despite how common hypocrisy is, most of us feel embarrassed when caught in an inconsistency. We feel we have to explain ourselves to save face. Politicians and other public figures often deny, rationalize, or deflect. Some even resign (Seyler, 2017).

There is good reason to be embarrassed. Behaving hypocritically can be perceived to show a lack of fairness, self-awareness, intelligence, or even morality. Not that all hypocrisies are equally embarrassing.

Hypocrisy does NOT reveal itself over night–that would be hypocritical of us if we were to just go after a subject as to not allow it room to grow first given that it is the nature of learning that one is often first very proud of their hypocritical findings until later when they say, “I cannot believe that I thought this was amazing!” Hence, hypocrisy takes a lot of time and consistent effort on the part of men as to all chant the same phrase that is often Hitler-ish. In that, hypocrisy is often related to a lack of fairness even in fairness and a lack of self-awareness if merely due to insistence and a lack of intelligence as it is too focused to allow for any more growth and a lack of morality as it is too self-righteous to a point of losing purpose. And although I have given what these things are “due to”, those things are also an aspect of sexism as to make insistence an aspect of sexism…. and lack of growth in terms of prospect to be an aspect of sexism… and contradictory-fairness (inequality) to be an aspect of sexism…. and purposeless-self-righteousness to also be an aspect of sexism. Hence, if embarrassed is the feeling that results from those things coming to light, then I need to ask: “shall we also take the embarrassment on your behalves in order that your feelings may not get hurt one bit? Now, if I was the one who has invented such feeling, I would be happy to exchange it back if you have your receipt…but I am afraid that the lord has brought this feeling as something to consider in relation to placement and in relation to “know it all” and in relation to many other aspects as we may have felt it before in trying to run and then passing gas instead for us to know that things foul smelling need to be held-in lest you bestow upon others the imposition that they are worthy of your urine where then they will surely search much to find how its dark yellow is a sign that you have a problem (even if it is a health related problem)”. Right?

So yea, feel embarrassed if that is how you end up feeling: I have numbed my soul and put on my thick dark shades and I am not going to look left nor right when I cross the street as I am planning to give this world a slap in the face right back!!! And so, I will not be too concerned with men and their feelings one bit… dark shades and shoulder shrug before pressing “publish this post”.

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