“Not every thought that you have is a matter of fact”…that is the claim made by Psychotherapist and former monk, Donald Altman in his article entitled 3 Ways to Make Friends with Scary or Negative Thoughts published in PsychologyToday. In fact, it is a way of facts that which is every thought one has, however. And such way of facts is of the person as it is the way of that person unique to herself. The way of facts is feelings and the way of facts is thoughts and the way of fact is sensitive to the person being in agreement with themselves as any negative fact is a matter of fact something that is trying to make its own way in the person; thus, impacting them negatively. Hence, although Mr. Altman wants us to feast upon the food for thought that is his assertion, we see that such assertions that tell us that not every thought is a matter of fact is compatible with the formulation of comprehension where that which is against us has somehow found itself a way to function through us. In that, yes: I can comprehend what Mr. Altman is saying in stating that not every thought one has is a matter of fact. And I can also comprehend the internal thought that says that I am too stupid or too fat….but who wants to turn those into a matter of fact? No one because these are not the way of the person who is having these thoughts—hence, the negative reaction one has in having them.
Every thought a person has is a matter of fact. Yet, when the thought that one is having is an assertion against the matter of fact that the person is the owner of her own mind and body, then such thoughts are pointed out diligently as they should be pointed out. To silence these thoughts by giving them a cheap one-liner is a soothing way to cater to the falsehood they insinuate. Our minds are important to us and our sense of worth demand that others have not compromised the integrity of our feelings and thoughts lest we no longer know how to feel or think as we become ones who disown our own selves; which is a thing that will neither allow us to see the importance in our selves nor the wrongs in having others abuse us…similar to ones who are drunk and passed out. Of course, I assume that men do not mind us reaching that point, however (proven by rape).
Meanwhile you can ask yourselves these questions (as Donald has mentioned in his article), “Where is the emotion—anger, frustration, impatience, disappointment, or otherwise—located in the body? Where are you feeling tight, clenched up, guarded? Change your body position and unclench in the moment.”—–very Frisky!