Calling Out: Noam Shpancer Ph.D. & Psychologytoday

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There is an article written by Noam Shpancer Ph.D. in entitled, No Man’s Land: Where Are the Male Daycare Caregivers?—-A gender-segregated caregiving profession is not optimal for children. In the article, Noam Shpancer tries to explain to us why the babysitting and daycare industry needs to be more gender inclusive of men as it should no longer continue to be a female-only (female mostly) field. Noam gives us a few reasons for why men caregivers are needed for the wellbeing of children. According to Noam, a gender integrated child-caregiving is needed because, “First, children’s gender concepts develop early, and are shaped in part by their proximal environments”. In addition, “The absence of male caregivers puzzles further in light of research showing that male and female caregivers both are capable of taking care of children, interacting sensitively with them, teaching them well, and creating secure attachment bonds.”

Before I continue in summarizing what else Mr. Noam wrote in his article, I want you to go along with me in imagining these two scenarios:

A woman who is 30 years old just started on her career. At 35, she gets pregnant and has a child. At 38, she gets pregnant again and has another child. Here we have ONE woman and TWO babies.

A 40 year old stay-at-home mother has 4 children. Here we have ONE woman and FOUR children.

Now, here comes Mr. Shpancer who wants to INTEGRATE men into this baby-overload formula given that truly no one can care about 2 babies alone (or even as a couple sometimes) yet alone 4 freaking babies. Yet, it is to be expected that the woman who has had 4 children is the one who is more likely to join the baby daycare industry. Furthermore, It is to be noted that MEN and MALES have already been integrated into this formula. And they have HELPED in yielding to a 6:2 BABIES-to-MOTHERS ratio. Do men need to help women in caring for the children they have “helped” them produced OR should men have NOT helped so much in producing such quantity?!

When a child is raised by a woman or even when a child is raised by the mother and the father, it becomes the child’s right to be a sibling to his/her siblings. To be a sibling is to understand that you and your sister/brother share the same FATHER…ONE FATHER. Even if a woman was to have three children from three different fathers,  the children are still aware of the impact that such has had on their mother as they are also aware of the the fact that they are not full siblings where such becomes a factor they can account for in their lives in order to develop a correct meaning of their standings in society. You are not allowed to bring in the HELP of other men into the formula as to paint men and the man who has gotten mommy pregnant in a better light. A father who has gotten the mother pregnant several times, is one who has not integrated himself well into the formula and neither has he given MOMMY the body-comfort that she needs out of her own body yet alone the body and the comfort that a child needs and deserves. Simply put, impacting the mother affects her children as she is not a disposable baby making machine serving her duty in yielding to an evolutionary desirable set of offspring.

Hence, when it comes to the baby-sitting industry, I think men should leave their integration aspect to porn where they come around to screw with the babysitter. I mean, porn has integrated men in their babysitting scenes where society has not included them in the actual babysitting. And if porn is fair and not exploitative, then let us call that “fair integration”, right?

Good conduct is not an afterthought lest it is called, “guilt”, however.

OH HERE IS ANOTHER THING: It would be fun to watch men get women pregnant in order that they can guarantee themselves a good babysitting career. Corruption is not a man’s thing for us to worry about that however.
Here is a list of the references Shpancer used in writing his garbage of an article:
Selected References:

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