If you read the headline news today, you probably ran into a story about Pope Francis telling a gay man that ‘God made you like this’ . The Guardian reports that, “A survivor of clerical sexual abuse [Juan Carlos Cruz] has said Pope Francis told him that God had made him gay and loved him, in arguably the most strikingly accepting comments about homosexuality to be uttered by the leader of the Roman Catholic church….“He told me, ‘Juan Carlos, that you are gay does not matter. God made you like this and loves you like this and I don’t care. The pope loves you like this. You have to be happy with who you are,’ Cruz told Spanish newspaper El País.” . So yea a man told himself what the pope told him about his (the man’s) sexuality being okay for him (the pope) and for HIM (g-d) which is why the man, now, finds himself to be at peace with himself being gay. Let us add another man to this homosexual encounter because, in the article, Father James Martin, a Jesuit priest in New York, agreed with the Pope saying: “the onus is on the church to make LGBT Catholics feel welcome in the church and to stop discriminating against people based on their “sexual morality”.
And I just have a few issues in regards to discrimination against people based on their “sexual morality”. The church needs to discriminate based on “sexual morality” when it comes to girls being married off when they are under 18. The church needs to discriminate based on “sexual morality” when it comes to cultural practices under which a woman is forced to marry a man despite the fact that the woman is asked whether someone is forcing her to get married or not since, in many cultures, the NO is merely a YES that has long been dismissed.
The church has played a center role in the sexual conduct of people (going as far away from the Virgin Mary as anyone can go) in many under developed areas around the world. And largely, the church has accepted the cultural practices of the people in such regions to a point where Christianity/Catholicism is not practiced in accordance to the doctrine. We have a religion based on forgiveness and love that is not in line with the way many Christian/Catholic women are treated. Sexual immorality is not a thing that is concerning homosexuality past the reaction of people to it where they look at a homosexual man and say, “What the hell?! Do you think you can just do whatever the hell you want?!” And such reaction to homosexuality is one that is projected on gay men when it should be a reaction to the way many men are treating women today around our globe, instead. We should be telling those men (the ones mistreating women): “WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING?! YOU CANT JUST DO WHATEVER THE HELL YOU WANT!” Again this previous statement is often a reaction projected onto gay men in order to create a sense of “strangeness” that is past what a woman is able to understand or dis/agree with correctly.
Hence, homosexuality is labeled as an “immoral sexual act” where many conservatives in our country and many men around the globe have reacted to it as to express a disgust as if one lacks the ability to behave himself correctly and decently enough all while being seen as “wild” and “uncontrollable” and “unmanaged” and “without boundaries or principles”. That reaction should be ripped out and placed as a reaction against the sexual mistreatment of women as men are often ones who are not acting as if there is a limitation to how much abuse a woman is able to take. It is heterosexual men who have acted in an uncontrollable manner…it is heterosexual men who have overstepped their boundaries against women….it is heterosexual men who have preached and practiced “principles” that are far from allowing anyone a chance to be decent. So, I disagree with Father James Martin… and I am asserting that the Catholic Church cannot wash its hands from what it means for one to be sexually moral since one cannot just create a mess and leave it for others to deal with it. The church has been involved in many sexist beliefs that have harmed women and the church needs to make sure that its teachings do not continue to hold women to a standard of conduct that is nothing short of abusive and sexist. Although, I must admit, that religion is often counterproductive in relation to the sexual conduct of people as many people take religion as a form of a recommendation that is above and beyond what is right for them to do OR they take it in such extreme manner as to increase the significance of sex in general—which is merely a thing that ends up harming women.
On whether g-d made gay men “like this” or not, that is not a valid question in regards to the reasons why it is asked. For even if one “chooses” to be gay, I say that such aspect is within the rounds of choice anyways. Because if one was to take away the aspect of “choice”, then one takes away from the aspect of consent—which again, does nothing but harms women. A sin: I will write about what a sin actually means in another article and I will be sure to continue this discussion on homosexuality.