Forgive Him…Forgive Him Not!

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“To forgive or not to forgive” is the cheap thought of the day as one may be feeling a bit generous in relation to that which “there lies plenty of for the giving” to anyone who is around… lest you are around someone who is not to be forgiven (such as a woman). Forgiveness is indeed a mild mistake at the most which is similar to a sense of assurance in relation to the path that one is walking on as to not have people and things pop out of no where to cause unnecessary drama. For when it comes to for-giveness, letting go is the goal and keeping your enemy closer is the way (of the devil). To let go of a person is to forgive them for that which you think they should have contributed as your demands are not met—in this manner, forgiveness is forward thinking. And to keep your enemy close is to let go of such person as you are left with a needy feeling that makes the enemy seem like they have still won as you hold on to the forgiveness itself–despite the fact that such feeling is covered with a blanket for your convenience in order that you may feel like you are alright.

When the wind blows a storm and the blanket flies along with it as to leave your ass exposed in regards to the past that you have covered up, a major panic attack can be predicted specially if you thought that you were just a good person living life as an average citizen. For the terms of forgiveness are not built on solid grounds as one is usually building such tower in order to patch a cracked bridge that may never be crossed by anyone thereafter —as such, forgiveness is sometimes done in order to make sure that the line that has been crossed is not to be crossed again without that being a threat that continues the situation… thereby giving one a peace of mind where a peace of mind may not otherwise be there. And so, where is the guilt in forgiveness when it comes to those who we forgive? And to what level of arrogance are we asked to rise in order for us to feel such power in forgiving others? For if one was to harm another, the other is discounted… and in being discounted, does forgiveness become a promise of a thing that gives worthiness as to not only forgive but to restore the discounted aspect? Meaning: if you break my arm, forgiveness alone does not heal it but it may heal the relationship between us as to cast the relationship itself above my own arm nevertheless. Meaning: my arm is broken…forgiveness says that you and I are on good terms nevertheless and let us put the arm in a cast some other time as we forget about it for this moment. This is specially true when it comes to abuses of the past that are assumed to have been forgiven by the passing of time itself as it expects us to be ones who abide by its terms as if we are the passing of time itself.

Forgive and forget: And smitten be the person who refuses because being cold is not a thing that is so much liked. Plus, why not forgive and forget, ladies? What is it that you would be losing? To forgive is a thief indeed as it demands itself upon that which is liked today as to allow men to take ownership of it too by the virtue of “improvement” despite the fact that we should be “improvement’s” biggest beneficiary. To build up a case for forgiveness is a whole other thing, however, as it is a demand that orders itself as an assumption. It is assumed that men will be forgiven but that is not forgiveness as it is more of “a lack of care” on their part. To judge a person as to argue a point in regards to forgiveness itself is to be redundant as to discount their view by the addition of a layer that asserts an importance in regards to dismissal itself. Meaning: Do not dismiss my point by saying, “forgiveness is the answer” as you would be saying that “forget it” is a legitimate point of reason as it not only asks me to forget it but it also asks me to act as if I have the opposite of it already (slapping me is not forgiven lest you are not slapping me anymore plus additional security measures in exchange for that forgiveness).

Deliberation in relation forgiveness cannot be towards forgiveness when it comes to one wronging another. For the idea of “one wronging another” is a thing that sits only well on a broken bridge. And so, deliberation in relation to forgiveness cannot assert the bridge to be the meeting place where forgiveness takes place as one is “sorry” for “having tied you to this bridge!” thereby continuing to stand at the place of wrong lest deliberation in relation to using forgiveness as a tool to get out of past wrongs becomes the intent. In that, such deliberation says that forgiveness itself is being abused as a way of abusing women.

Forgiveness that is done after taking a wrong journey of a 1000 miles as to not have the person think twice about changing their minds along the way….begs the question: “why did you not forgive me along the way as to not wrong me since you love forgiveness so much?” For if you slap me once, ask for forgiveness. If you slap me once and then you do it again, ask me to forgive your second time around as I look for what the pattern means to me. But if you want to slap women 1000 times in a row as to then say “I am sorry”, then we need to laugh it off…right?! Deliberate deprivation of one’s right to be forgiven by being freed from the wrong act itself before it happens is strike one in relation to forgiveness. And if women were to stand today as to say, “the reason why we allowed you to abuse us is so that we may deny you from being forgiven!” would that be not stupid of us?! Who would take restriction in exchange of saying “you are not forgiven for it!” years later? And as such, who would take restriction in exchange of saying, “you are forgiven for it!” years later? Did we get restricted due to us having the will to forgive as forgiveness is part of our actual purpose in life? Yet, the question becomes more real when asked of men: “did men restrict us in order that they see us forgive them?” Is forgiveness an aspect of abuse that was inherent to the initial factors within it? Meaning: did a man slap a woman where part of it was the desire to see her forgive him? For let us not forget that forgiveness has been a spiritual religious aspect connected to g-d himself as to have g-d himself be degraded by it if it is abused! MEANING MEANING MEANING: slap me once… I forgive you… I love you thereafter but the forgiveness is something that puts a strain on the relationship as to have me feel like maybe I should not have…. and if this is done again, then I am your little bitch as to lose a sense of esteem… “We have done all these things to women, dear lord….and here they are by our side still!”—is this degrading and is it right? For if a building was hit 1000 times it will crumble without a chance of repair…but reparation in regards to women is supposed to take forgiveness onto death and turn it into a whole new life. What kind of fools do you think we are?! That is a good question when it should not be one!

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Liliyan Hassan

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