Patience & Its Virtues

Liliyan Hassan Free Will, General Psychiatry, Self-Control, Suicide Leave a Comment

We have all heard and been told that patience is a virtue. And patience is truly a virtue that requires understanding and a sense of a forward movement that does not impose itself as a feeling against the person where that makes “moving forwards” a thing that stomps its feet on top of a person’s head as to have them feel “unable” to use their own energy as they feel besides their own self in the process. That is the gain one gets with understanding: a thing that energizes a person forwards and a thing that allows them to not be against their own selves.

To be patient in doing something is to be a friend with one’s own self. And to a be a friend with other people is a thing that replaces patience with an eagerness to act where one “gets to something” faster if they are doing it for/with a friend. Hence, patience is a friend to the self and so it becomes a thing that requires understanding when it comes to strangers as understanding is required to ask anyone to be patient and where “common understanding” in relation to that patience can turn a stranger into a friend. If you have a client who you have done a lot of work for, you probably have established a sort of a friendship with them as they have waited on you and you have waited on them. Patience is in order, indeed, but patience should not be a thing that demands an order in order for it to not have already become a thing that has ordered people to waist their own time as they become similar to one who has no other options. For if patience demands an order, it means that one has made choices due to all other choices having been taken—there is a huge line at McDonalds and a huge line at Carl’s Jr….therefore, due to patience demanding the order, I shall order my food at Jack in the Box instead. This is no longer an order that has demanded patience, but it is an order where patience has been demanded past its own limit as to become greater than the order itself.

Patience is a friend to the self and so, in being put into action, patience become care as it becomes the “careful” whenever one does something in a careful fashion as it also becomes the “care” that one takes the time to show. Given that patience is a friend, it becomes part of all relationships we establish as it becomes one aspect of what determines the “when” and the “how long” in them as one looks at the past and the present, in order for us to move towards a better future that has a better sense of peace and justice.

For patience to continue to be a virtue, it cannot be abused. And abuse—any abuse—is an abuse of patience since abuse is that, which in relation to time, takes up time for it to never allow for common grounds to be a thing we walk on if repeated enough. Hence, lack of patience in relation to abusing women is instability and lack of patience in relation to abusing women is danger and lack of patience in relation to abusing women is restriction —where this lack of patience is something that says, “one did not take the time to care”. And if patience is a thing that allows for time itself, then through patience we are able to see that time itself has demanded of us to do that which is benevolent over that which is abusive and harmful—which makes patience a right that one has over their own selves as it demands of others to treat us in a manner that allows for it to be so in order that we can be for ourselves a friend and not an enemy that we despise lest time itself becomes a thing that takes too much effort and energy for us to continue to tolerate ourselves enough not to feel frustrated with our own self to a point where we are lead¬† —if only due to a sense of urgency and inability “to take it anymore”—to carry out acts of violence and crime or to a point where we feel like we should end our own lives after having grown too weary while still being over-whelmed.

Patience is the time of our lives as it tells us that we should use time in order for us to have the time of our lives in it. And so a 10 year old should have had 10 years that were patient with her… and a 50 year old should have had 50 years that were patient with her… and every woman should have been on this earth in a manner that has been patient with them in order for them to say, “time has been on my side”. Yet, with human rights violations, “time is on my side” and “time is not on my side” become a thing that measures the quality of life that a woman has had where we find ourselves to have had too many misses to account for the hits.¬† For it is “fairness in time” as a fairness that exists today…and it is NOT “fairness in time” as if to say that “we will be fair to you one day”. When we do not know what tomorrow will bring and how long we are here on this earth, what good becomes of such “unjust abuse of patience” that says, “we will be fair to you one day” but to tell us that patience has been abused to a point where one never had the time to experience their own fruit of labor yet alone their own selves?! Indeed, if you put on your birthday hats and blow a bunch of whistles, that is the, “we will be fair to you one day” as it is the best way one is able to view that gesture—one day out of the entire year. Patience is not made for abuse and neither does it tolerate it as time itself shows us its steady movements by the virtue of the sun and the moon in order to tell us that if time itself was to have its way, then we should keep it moving past the time when the sun sends out its hottest rays during the peak of a summer’s day and past the time when the moon sends out the least amount of light. In that, patience shows us that we require more than a quick peak as we are also required to spend time on ourselves as we look at ourselves through a good fair light. For the sun and the moon show us that patience is not a friend of fear and that patience is not a friend of the extreme–not through their movements and their rise and the fall in the sky above– but through their movements in relation to how we feel as they move in a steady fashion….thus allowing us to see ourselves as important. Hence, patience is a virtue because it is a thing that gives us importance.

Conducting ourselves in a fashion that does not allow for the abuse of patience is a thing of importance. And so, it becomes a thing of importance that allows one to be patient. Hence, being patient is on the grounds that you are treated/seen as important. And asking for others to be patient with you is also on the grounds that you see/treat them as important as well. For without that importance, then one can say that, “patience itself is more important than me in accordance to how you have treated me”… and one can then be justified in having patience itself make itself the thing that orders—thus, depriving us of the opportunity to be the force behind the change as change becomes a thing that is due to us having no choice but to give something else a try. Yet, when human rights violations and injustice are present in our world today, we have turned patience into a thing that has over demanded itself onto our lives leaving us all with a lot of catching up to do. Hence, it becomes of the utmost necessity that we bring forth justice and give women their rights in full in order for us to have respect for the lives of people and their time here on earth.

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Liliyan Hassan

Liliyan Hassan

Founder: Go for Women

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